Showing posts with label conversations. Show all posts
Showing posts with label conversations. Show all posts

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Landmark Booksellers

Last Sunday, I had the pleasure of attending the baptism of my best friend's second daughter, Anna. I had been fortunate enough to have attended the baptism of Anna's older sister, Becca, almost four years ago, so it was nice to continue this tradition. I was happy to spend the time with my friend and her and her husband's family, and I was glad to share a celebratory brunch with them all. Still, several hours of this left me drained, and as we departed the restaurant, I knew I needed some time to refresh. (I also wanted to ensure they had plenty of family time together because I know how very important that stuff can be.)

It was rainy that afternoon, the kind of downpour that encourages one to stay inside, curled up with a good book. When, however, all that awaits you is a serviceable but sterile hotel room, exploring in the rain doesn't seem so bad. Luckily, I had an idea in mind. 

In preparing for my visit to Tennessee, I had done some research on Franklin (the town south of Nashville where my friends live), and the one website I kept returning to was one for an independent bookshop, run from a gorgeous older house on the main street of the historic downtown area. Like libraries, bookstores cast a spell over me, luring me in and making it very hard to leave without something new in my hand. This store in particular, though, was imbued with a special sort of charm, no doubt one reflective of the owner.

My arrival was announced by the jingling of the bell above the door. The owner immediately greeted me, an older gentleman with broad smile on his face and a welcome drizzled with the honeyed-accent of the South. He explained the layout of the place and then left me to explore on my own. 

It was strange at first, wandering through the rooms of this old house. It was definitely a far more intimate experience than one ever feels at even the nicest of large bookstores. Each room held books for a particular genre, and in each room, there were a few places to sit and browse through the massive collection available. I imagine if I ever leave my book lust unchecked, my house would look very much like this. Bookshelves covered just about every inch of wall space (outside of the bathroom, which had its own unique decor). The books that filled the shelves were not the standard mass paperbacks found in your local Target. They were first editions, signed copies, books with their own histories beyond the ones captured between their covers.


If I may indulge a bit of a Romantic notion, this place reminded me why a complete shift toward digital books would be a huge loss for society. Not so much that the stories of each book will be lost, but the stories that are often shared with the book. How can you tell how well-loved a particular book is if you do not have the worn, tattered cover and dog-eared pages? How can you replicate that strange connection between you and a previous owner when exploring his marginalia? How can you ignore just how powerful it is to be in a room filled with books, books that hold within their covers promises of knowledge, adventure, love, life? Sigh...

(Stepping off my soapbox now.) I slowly made my way through each room, browsing the different titles, not really looking to buy anything but to get a feel for what was there. When I finally made my way back to the front of the store, I had to compliment the owner on the store. I asked him about what compelled him to begin this business, particularly with the challenges facing independent bookstores. Quite simply, it boiled down to his and his wife's love for books and their desire to do something together. For the next ten or so minutes, we shared our mutual affection for what books are and how integral they have been in our lives. Both of us had an older relative who encouraged our reading from a young age and both of us saw that a book is more than just a physical object. He shared with me a few of his favorite books--an entire section dedicated to books about books and bookselling...there were a lot, and many of them looked like an interesting read. I had to settle on just one.

I had to ask how the current trends in the economy in general (a shift to the internet commerce) and how digital technology are affecting the store. He admitted an uncertainty about how long he and his wife can keep the business running, but while there was a tinge of disappointment, there was not rancor in his words. He expressed a level admiration for how digital books will transform the industry and seemed intent on embracing it as well. And he found some silver linings--fewer trees being cut down, information made more widely available in no time at all. The part of me that desires instant gratification finds this appealing, but it still saddens me that some of what makes books what they are is fading away. 

In a world that is increasingly becoming digitized, I find comfort in the physical. The ability to hold a book in my hands, to flip through a few pages, or to start reading wherever I choose are pleasures, as simple as they may be, that I enjoy when at the library or bookstore. Thankfully, we are still several years away from a completely digital world, I am sure. And until then, I will enjoy the joy of discovering places like Landmark Booksellers, where those who still believe in the magic of books can share their love and make memories that imbue said books with even more value.

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Happy Hour

I am not a social person. I am the kind of person who, after work, skips changing into casual clothing in favor of donning pajamas. (Unless I plan to go for a walk...then I might go ahead and put on jeans and a t-shirt since I haven't quite reached the level of eccentricity where I feel comfortable roaming the city streets in my robe.) So, this makes it all the more remarkable that last night I willingly...nay gladly...joined a group of co-workers for some after hours socializing.

It was a simple affair, a means to celebrate the birthdays of two co-workers. We had planned to hit Brio, an Italian place, but it seemed like the rest of Kansas City had the same idea. With a remarkable lack of fuss, we quickly decided on an alternative location and settled at our table for an evening of conversation and camaraderie. For most everyone else, this would probably seem typical, even boring, but in many ways, I was fascinated. While the conversations were some of your typical banter among a group of young professionals (ok, maybe not so much...but again, not having much to compare it to, for all I know discussing dance-offs, past romantic conquests and each other's children with an amazing number of insults flying back and forth and a decent amount of gossip thrown in is the norm), it felt like I was indulging in something more.

My strong need for solitude often prevents me from seeing much beyond the walls I have built to protect myself from intrusion. I am very selective about who I allow in, and even from them, I hold things back. If I let people get too close, I fear I will be vulnerable to future hurt later on...yes, even by co-workers.  Better to be impervious and never let anyone get close than experience pain later on. Silly, I know, but nowhere near as ridiculous as the realization that here were six people whom I have seen every day for the past three months (even longer, really, but only in the past three months have we sat together so closely), and my knowledge about them, their lives, their families, etc. was seriously lacking.

One of the reasons I agreed to come out last night was to learn more about these people for whom I have a great deal of respect. Perhaps I thought a glass of beer may help break through some of the mortar (yes, one beer is all it takes any more to loosen me up a bit) and quash my natural shyness enough to let my guard down. While the beer did have a strange soporific effect, I cannot say that at the end of the night, I was best friends with all of them, planning future happy hours for weeks to come. I can say, though, that as I listened to the conversations, I definitely achieved my goal of learning more about each of them (some details I could have lived without ever hearing...), adding the shades of depth I had been ignoring. Amazing how much more interesting people are when you no longer view them as flat characterizations.

I also felt a slight spark of passion for work reignite. As cheesy as it sounds, if I can connect with the people I work with, I am more inclined to stick around doing something that doesn't always fulfill me a while longer. At the very least, it makes the day pass more quickly when you can participate in all the barbs flying back and forth over the cubicle walls. And right now, finding these kinds of connections are pretty important to maintaining sanity.

How do you connect with others? Are you like me, loath to connect with others out of fear or shyness, so you keep it to a minimum or are you someone compelled to learn anything and everything about someone within the first five minutes of meeting them?